Hopeless is Nothing

Negativity's a bitch, isn't it? Have you ever talked to someone who wanted help or advice but then they shoot down every single idea and thought you have? I mean, you name it and they've already tried it. They have a million and one reasons as to why it didn't work and a million and three reasons as to why it won't work if they were to try it again. It's the worst, right? *nods*

This might seem harsh, but sometimes people need to hear a bit of straightforward truth in order to get where they need to be. Sometimes people just aren't able to hear the more subtle hints that we are far more likely to offer.

Here's the thing. If you sit there and shoot down every single suggestion someone offers you, then, SPOILER ALERT, you don't actually want advice. You may say you do and you may honestly even believe that you do, but you don't. If you are not willing to accept the help and advice that is available to you, then you aren't ready to change your situation and or attitude.

Now, I understand that sometimes people just need to vent about their stresses, and that's totally fine, but there comes a time when you have to ask yourself if you're really doing yourself (or anyone) any good.
And, I would bet more often than not, that when you do this, it's probably at night, when you're worn out, or when you're not feeling well. My mom has always said that everything seems and feels so much worse when you're sick or tired, and SHE'S RIGHT. For example, if the thing you are talking about is out of your control and continuing to discuss it is not going to change anything...then you are wasting your time and energy. Not to mention possibly just making yourself feel worse.
I mean, why would you want to talk in circles about something that is just going to perpetuate a miserable cycle of negativity?!

There is no magical answer to your problems. It'd be fabulous if shit worked like that, but it doesn't, so we have to find (preferably healthy) ways to deal.

Also, if you aren't ready and willing to listen to and apply someone's advice to your life...then STOP ASKING FOR IT. That may sound harsh, but it's how a lot of people feel. It can be pretty disheartening to offer up your best advice only to be shot down by the person you just spent time listening to and caring about.

Nothing is hopeless. And don't say that your case is, because it's not. You just have to keep hope that things can get better. If you refuse to believe that things will get better then there isn't much room for things to improve, because all the space is filled with negativity and doubt. So, don't give up on the hope that things can improve, because if you do...it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I'm not sure if I've said everything I wanted to in this post or not...I started writing this almost three months ago and am just now getting back to it. But, either way, I hope you have found something in this post helpful or thought-provoking.

Until Next Time,
Carly (but really Batman)